The Domesticated Mind of Domestic Violence
Thousand of people fall victim to domestic violence every year, bringing children into the mix of witnessing horrific scenes that most of us are only able to associate with dramatic movies. It’s not drama, for those involved it’s a never-ending nightmare and it feels like a trap that they can never be free of.
People who are abused never plan for it to be the way it is and most often wish they could find ways out.
The most common attributes that are quite common with abused people are the same mentality they all share about their abusers. Most people are genuinely terrified of their abusers, they can’t see a way out, they believe that if they leave the abuser will hunt them down and kill them regardless, so they choose to stay. Society can’t understand the factors that produce such a mentality.
Domestic violence isn’t just a problem that plagues families, it’s not just something that goes on behind closed doors, it’s a mental illness, a state of mind that poisons everyone involved and to break the cycle, well it takes much more than just walking away.
Some people don’t even know that what they experience is not normal, they believe that everyone suffers behind closed doors and no one talks about it. Some know it’s not normal but they don’t see a future or they believe that the abuser loves them and that’s why they are beaten, out of love.
Love doesn’t hurt, love is a beautiful thing shared between two people who would never think of hurting the other. Some people believe that compromising is a part of a relationship, they are willing to “compromise” thinking that these acts against them will one day end and the family they dream of will instantly develop. The same “fairy-tailish” mentality that plagues most, such optimistic dreams that are likely to never happen and so many people suffer in these situations until it’s too late.
If you’re a victim of domestic violence, get out now! No matter what your abuser tells you, you can succeed without them and there is help. If you know someone who is being abused, talk to them and help them get out. There are so many programs, so many shelters and agencies dedicated to ending the destructive cycle of domestic violence. Don’t turn your back on someone in need. Be an advocate to stop the cycle and don’t let domestic violence ruin the life of yet another adult or child. Learn the warning signs, help to provide abused people with the information they need to get out and stop domestic violence from plaguing their lives.
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